Husband Headship

Husbands can never coerce wives
to obey them.
Submission is encouraged
by example, not coercion. Even if through
manipulation or abuse you can force her
to comply with your requests, you will find
rebellion and refusal in her heart. More often
not, when the husband submits to God
ʼs leadership,
his wife gladly submits to his.
Submission begins with
the husband, not the wife.
It is encouraged by the husbandʼs
example and sacrifice.

For as the woman originates from the man, so also the man
has his birth through the woman; and all things originate from God”

(1 Corinthians 11:12).

A wise husband will invite and listen to the advice of his wife since she is a fellow heir. Pilate would have done himself a great service had he heeded his wife
ʼs counsel to leave Jesus alone rather than cave in to the publicʼs demand for blood. (Matthew 27:19)

The Bible
does not command the wife to obey her husband as it does in the relationship between children and parents, slaves and their masters. A wife is never to be treated as a child or a slave but as an equal partner in the marriage who submits to her husbandʼs leadership, not because she is inferior, but because she voluntarily accepts Godʼs design for marriage. Husbands can encourage her submission by example and sacrifice. Wives often have a difficult time placing herself under the husbandʼs authority because she has not seen him submit to Godʼs authority.

There are two verses to one that speak about the husband
ʼs responsibility to his wife. Being the leader of the family is not a privilege to be exploited, it is a responsibility. Husbands are to place the welfare of his wife above his own.

If he is not willing to do that, then he has no business getting married. If the wife is not willing to submit to the authority of her husband she has no business getting married.

But if you choose to marry, God through Jesus Christ has issued us a direct order,
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church” (Ephesians 5:25).