Love & Discipline

Family Relationships & Parenting
Parents are to love their children.
Love is not permissiveness. Rather,
it is godly and strong. Love protects
children from the evils of the world.
The rulers of the darkness are after your
children. Godly parents are not to relinquish
their authority over their children to anyone.
Love builds up, not tear down. Love keeps no
record of wrongs. Love is patient and kind! Love
forgives. Love rejoices with the truth. (1 Cor. 13:4-8a)

Children are to obey their parents. Parents are to parent their children. They are to train them up in the admonition of the Lord.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH. ” (Ephesians 6:1-3).

“Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).

“These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on you forehead. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates” (Deut. 6:6-9).

Fathers and Mothers are to set the spiritual allegiance for their home.

“If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15).

Fathers are to Discipline their Children
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and
instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 1:4).


Dads are to have control of their emotions when discipling their children. And they are to discipline. They should not neglect it nor give the responsibility to someone else. Discipline should be towards a goal of positive and godly behavior traits in their children. This is an expression of godly love.

Endure your suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is there that a father does not discipline?But if you do not experience discipline, something all sons have shared in, then you are illegitimate and are not sons. Besides, we have experienced discipline from our earthly fathers and we respected them; shall we not submit ourselves all the more to the Father of spirits and receive life? For they disciplined us for a little while as seemed good to them, but he does so for our benefit, that we may share his holiness. Now all discipline seems painful at the time, not joyful. But later it produces the fruit of peace and righteousness for those trained by it” (Hebrews 12:7-11).

Fathers are to be an example to their family. They are to lead them and make godly decisions. Fathers need to be present and actively engaged. It requires that they give up (at least temporarily) some of their favorite activities in order to spend time with the family.

The one who spares his rod hates his child, but the one who loves his child is diligent in disciplining him”..”Discipline your child, for there is hope, but do not set your heart on causing his death” (Proverbs 13:14; 19:18) (See also Proverbs 22:15; 23:13,14).

The penalties for spiritual neglect are great. Fatherly sin when unchecked or covered in the blood of Jesus goes well beyond your immediate children. And the reward for diligence is great!

“... for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me, And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me and keep my commandments” (Deuteronomy 5:9,10).